Harold & Dorothy Sites (below left) have been married 54 years.
Between these two couples there's one hundred and fourteen (114) years of life experience and Godly wisdom!
With all their insight, no doubt they could write a best seller! They could tell us a thing or two about keeping a marriage covenant with God, raising kids and good ole' fashion love. We're beyond proud to call these people our parents. Thank you for always pointing us to Jesus and establishing Him as the foundation for our marriage and family.
*Good communication requires certain rules and guidelines, which are simple in one sense and extremely difficult in another.
Rule #1:There's no such thing as "off limit topics" in marriage. We must be able to approach and discuss the difficult subjects or it will become destructive. "Off limit topics" provide opportunities to build trust and intimacy in the relationship. Being patient with one another also promotes healing.
Rule #2: Whatever you say, say it with love (Ephesians 4:15). The more difficult something is to hear, the more gently and tenderly it must be said. Honesty without gentleness is brutal. Make sure that what you have to say needs to be said. Pray, ask God to give you wisdom about what to say and when to say it. Remember that men are really very vulnerable.
Rule #3: Timing is everything. Don’t talk about a difficult subject when the house is in chaos. Make a date, go to a quiet restaurant and talk to after a good meal. Don’t try to talk when your spouse is drifting off to sleep.
Join us Monday for Part 2...
*Adapted from Saying I Do was the Easy Part: Secrets to a Dynamic & Fulfilling Marriage. Copyright 2001 by Theda Hlavka.