Married Life ~ The Real "F" Word!
FORGIVE and don't hold grudges against each other!
We advocate the use of Bible verses at the church house but fail to recognize the importance of living out the Word in our own house.
Let's open up a can of worms, get all up in each others business and talk about the unmentionable - forgiving one another.
Can you imagine how often we've withheld forgiveness within our thirty (30) year marriage? Yep! the good little preachers wife has been mad.MaD.MAD at the preacher man a bazillion times and the wife knows exactly how to push his buttons. There's that!
Harmony in our heart and home depends on our choosing to forgive often.
Our nature likes to hold onto grudges, past insults or injury. A grudge convinces us that carrying it gives us power over the situation, we deserve to get even. Except it's a lie. Cuddling a grudge leads to resentment and bitterness. It steals our affection! When we refuse to extend forgiveness we aren't granted power, we become slaves to it. That's sin.
Can anything good come from denying forgiveness? We all know someone whose held a grudge to the end. They nurtured and entertained it, gave up energy, allowed it to consumed their joy, freedom and right standing with God. Hear this: no grudge is worth sacrificing our unity with God and our spouse. (or anyone else)
Let us tell you "how" to forgive your spouse:
1. As followers of Christ we know forgiveness isn't optional. We forgive because we are the forgiven.
"be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,
just as God through Christ has forgiven you."
(Eph 4:32 nlt)
2. We should forgive so much that it becomes an automatic response when we are offended.
Then Peter came to him and asked,
“Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?”
“No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven."
(Matthew 18:21-22 nlt)
70 x 7 cool! I can forgive my spouse 490 times! We're missing the point if we plan on keeping score, silly.
3. The penalty for refusing to extend forgiveness is far to great a risk. If we desire to be forgiven by God then choose to forgive.
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.
But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.
(Matt 6:14-15 nlt)
*Hurts can run deep. If you need help weeding through the details to find healing please find yourself a Christian counselor who will plow with you.